It happens. The inevitable. Someone at some time during the planning process will be in tears. I can not say it enough- I have NO idea why but weddings bring out the WORST in people just as much as they bring out the BEST in people.
So I have found myself saying "Cheers to no Tears!!" more than I thought I ever would have. ( you can use it but it is my tagline and I am trademarking it so give me a little credit or something please! haha)
So how can you as the bride, you as a bridal party member or you as the mother of the groom keep the tears from flowing and keep me saying Cheers to No Tears? It is simple. Think kindergarten. Think simpler times. Think about what your mom always told you:
Say "I am sorry"
This is so overly simple that right now you are laughing but think about it. What is the last argument or topic about the wedding that got you mad or made you cry?? Now what could you have done differently to change that? Could you have shared something? Cared a little more about the other person's side of things? Or could you have just said "I am sorry"?
99.9% of the time this will stop, mend and move along in a merry way most of the troubles. Most fights I see in wedding planning are simply put based on selfish can't-see-past-their-own-nose ways of looking at things. I have been there. Been on both sides. And I am willing to bet that as you are reading this you have been too. We all have been on both sides. It is just about being conscious of it and doing better next time.
This goes for brides, grooms, parents, siblings, wedding party members and even guests. Take a breath. Step back. Can you share? Care? or simply say I am sorry? To make this all better? I bet most heated topics that come your way will be very easily solved by doing one, two or all three of these things!!
I wish I only had to write about all the happy, amazing times that wedding planning can be but I am a realist and that just isn't always the case. So instead I wanted to share how I am trying to keep the peace with my clients, any weddings I am in and my own wedding. Hope this helps!!
So let's all say it together--- CHEERS TO NO TEARS!!!
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