For those of you who know me personally or who have worked with me you inevitably have heard me talk about managing expectations as being a huge part of my job. This is often one of the most challenging parts of my job- managing expectations of everyone involved and keeping things realistic. In the very connected, smart phone world we all live in now there are constant streams of information coming at you in all forms. From the second the ring is placed on the hand and someone says "YES!" the expectations start stacking up. Is the ring nice? Is it big enough? Will you get married this year? How big will the wedding be? What style wedding will you have? What will your dress/suit look like? Each and every person involved with a wedding has to manage their expections for this big day. I talk about it so often that it never really dawned on me that this is my topic- this is what I will start a blog series about. I will call it Great Expectations (original huh?) and in each installment of this series I will talk about a specific person or couple and the expectations they have for their role in the wedding day. I will write about the mother of the bride, the maid of honor, the LGBT couple, the parents who are paying for the wedding etc, etc and all the expectations that will need to be managed with each role. My wheels are already spinning thinking about this so stay tuned for all that is to come!! I will be launching my first installment of this series soon and who knows how many installments I will write but I have a feeling I will not run out of wedding expectations to discuss!
Stick around - you are going to want to read what I post!!
Thanks for reading :)
My clients come to me with a lot of different questions and concerns throughout the time we are working together but one topic that comes up time and time again concerns the wedding guests. I have been meaning to write this blog for quite some time now but after having a lengthy conversation with one of my couples a few days ago I realized it was time... hope this helps!!
This blog is directed to anyone who is invited to be a guest at a wedding! Here are some tips to make sure that you are the PERFECT wedding guest! It was hard to number these from 1-5 because in a lot of ways they are all just as important! So here you go- here are 5 things you can do - or not do- to be the perfect wedding guest!!
# 1. Do NOT wear white, ivory, cream or any other color that resembles white, ivory or cream if the bride is wearing white, ivory, cream or anything that resembles white, ivory or cream.
I am not even kidding about this one. I can't make these stories up if I tried. It happens and it happens more than you would think and in my opinion it is just plain rude.
#2. SHOW UP TO THE WEDDING ON TIME!
There is nothing worse than holding a ceremony for a guest who is arriving late. NOT fair. NOT cool.
#3. Do NOT get in the way of the professional photographer or videographer.
It does not matter how long you have been shooting, how great your camera or how important it is for you to have pictures- the couple has trusted their very important wedding day to these individuals. They do not want to see the back of your head in the middle of the aisle or you standing up in the church with your iPad up in the air taking pictures or video. Leave it in your bag and please, PLEASE do not get in the way of the professionals!! All the pictures are always posted online so you can see them there when they come out. I promise.
(You're welcome to all of the photographers and videographers who just yelled "AMEN" when they read this. Its ok- I have your back!!)
# 4. RSVP on time.
The majority of couples send out their Save-the-Dates and wedding invitations well in advance. Respond as soon as you can! If you have a work issue or something that is keeping you from knowing if you can attend let the couple know! Please just respond- it is the WORST thing when a couple has to track down their guests to ask if they are coming well after the due date has passed.
# 5. DO NOT ask for a plus one if you are not given one.
These decisions are largely based on $$- do not put that pressure on the couple to do something that they might not be able to afford. Putting together a guest list is one of the hardest things an engaged couple has to do. Trust me when I say that most couples planning a wedding wishes they had deeper pockets to be able to do things a little different. If you do not receive a plus one you are not being punished, or left out or something of that nature. They had to make cuts somewhere and this is how it is.
I hope I did not offend anyone with this blog and maybe, just maybe there are a few of you out there who will learn a thing or two after reading this. A girl can dream, can't she?!?!
Do you have anything else you want to share? Let me know! Comment on this blog with anything else you wish all wedding guests knew so that they too can be the perfect wedding guests!
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