All the single ladies… in your bridal party

All the singles ladies… in your bridal party.

To the bride: Remember way back when before the ring? Before the perfect forever partner? Before the we’s and us’s, when it was just I and me? Yeah, remember that time in your life. And now think about your single bridesmaids. Put yourself in their shoes. Stand back and look. No really- take a step back. And when you think you are far enough removed from the wedding take another step back. These are your friends, you family, your loved ones. Treat them like this. Treat them how you would want to be treated.

To the bridesmaid: There is nothing like a wedding to point out how single you are. Nothing like sitting at the head table in a bridesmaid gown all alone without a date when a slow song comes on. You awkwardly go to the bar. You dance with the children. You look for a drunk groomsman to dance with. But you are still single. Thanks for not giving you a plus one is what you want to say to the bride but you didn’t. It is “her” day and you didn’t want to ruin it. I get it. But you should be able to speak up. There is nothing like a wedding to giantly point out that you are single. At least if you had a date there you would feel better. Oh she told you that only people who are married get dates?  Or people who have been in long, committed relationships? Oh that makes it feel better said no one. Ever. Speak up. If something hurt your feelings speak up. Its ok. I get it. And so will the Bride and Groom.

And now back to you my lovely bride. I know you mean well. You really are trying to do best by everyone and I of all people completely understand that I really do!  I do not want you to think that I am knocking you at all. I just know, and have seen first hand how hard it may be to be on each side of things. I have been the single bridesmaid and I am always the one worried about the cost of the guest list. But think about what is more important. Your single bridesmaid having a great night or saving that $75? In the grand scheme of things I think you know what to do. 

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