Back on Sunday October 1st, we had the privilege of doing the wedding of a fellow planner from St. John at Peirce House in Lincoln, MA. Not only was Michelle, owner of Paradise Planning, an amazing bride but we loved working together over the past few months and bouncing 'planner stuff' off of each other. Amazing bride, new best friend- win win for this wedding planner!
About 3 months ago Michelle flew up to Boston and we met for a planning meeting at her venue. This particular venue has a noise ordinance and we needed to shut down the DJ earlier than we wanted to. This is very common here in New England where our venues tend to be in neighborhoods with private homes within close proximity. Well we didn't want that party to end too early so Michelle offered up a solution that works for her clients on St. John where a lot of venues have early quiet hours- we were going to do a Silent Disco!! This was a new idea for a lot us here in New England but it was the perfect solution! We set it all up, the headphones were shipped up to the venue and we were ready to go. DE was going to be part of history!!
When we moved the guests into the house to get this started they were SO excited!! We had all the headphones set to the same channel so they can dance along to all the greatness the DJ was playing and dance they did! This was a HUGE hit and something I know they will be talking about for a long time to come!
So consider yourself in the know- Silent Discos are taking over New England and you heard it here first!! #DEDoesItBetter!!
Want to learn more about how the DE team can bring a Silent Disco to your event? Hit us up at Hello@DetailedEngagements.com
Thank you SO much to the team at Latimer Studios for this sneak peak of our Silent Disco and all of the guests absolutely loving it!! You really do make real stories epic! You guys ROCK!!
Tiffany J. Learned
Film Credit goes to our friends at Latimer Studios! For more information about have them capture your big day reach out to them at email@example.com or www.latimerstudios.com.
Welcome to our first installment of Detailed Engagements Vendor Spotlight featuring our friend Ethan Cohen at UAV Look:
Vendor Spotlight: The Perspective of a Licensed Drone Pilot
Why you may want to consider what an experienced professional has to say about using a drone to capture your wedding
Ethan Cohen of UAV Look
Until about four years ago, capturing your wedding from the sky was an unfamiliar idea to most couples. Sure, helicopters and small aircrafts might have the ability to record footage, but that 20-400 ft of airspace above the ground (where the real magic happens) was completely uncharted territory. With drones rising in popularity, more couples are becoming excited about the idea of using them to create a unique perspective of their wedding day. So why shouldn't you ask your tech-savvy cousin operate their drone at your wedding? We spoke with Ethan Cohen, owner of aerial imaging company UAV Look, about just some of the reasons why it’s best to leave things to the professionals— especially on your wedding day!
1. More than Just a Hobby
Just like you wouldn't hire an unlicensed limo driver to transport you to your wedding, you shouldn’t want an unlicensed operator piloting a drone over your ceremony. Drone operation is a serious craft that deserves to be respected. Ethan Cohen is a licensed, fully insured, FAA approved pilot. In order to legally fly his drones commercially, Ethan has his Remote Pilot Certificate and a Private Pilot’s License. In his experience, becoming a licensed drone pilot has been a big investment— largely due to the time it takes to truly learn the craft and understand the risks involved.
2. Experience is Everything
In addition to having all the proper licensing, Ethan also has three years of experience under his belt. He reminds us that even though someone can operate a drone, it doesn't always mean that they should. Simply obtaining a license only requires the operator to know the basics, like asking permission before flying over a group of people, and how to legally comply with airspace restrictions and aviation regulations. An experienced pilot will also have taken the time to learn additional safety procedures in case of an emergency. Bottom line, your drone operator may sound confident in their abilities, but make sure they have the credentials and experience to back them up.
3. Quality Speaks for Itself
Ethan refers to himself as a pilot first and a photographer/videographer second. It takes a skilled operator to know how to keep the drone stable, and smoothly maneuver it to the right camera angles for all the best shots. Ethan also says that licensed professionals tend to use better equipment. They will likely have a drone outfitted with a higher quality camera that will record awesome video footage.
4. Know the Dangers
It is highly unlikely that the drone will fall out of the sky if you are using an experienced, licensed pilot. A professional drone pilot will know the guidelines associated with safe operation, and what to do in an emergency situation. Although drones do use GPS, a number of factors can cause that signal to be lost and the drone to switch into manual mode. If the operator is unfamiliar with flying manually, they will lose the ability to control the drone and create the possibility for a dangerous crash mid-ceremony. Your pilot should also know the limits of their drone. An experienced professional will take into consideration battery life, distance, surroundings and weather to avoid any serious mishaps, and be fully insured just in case.
5. The Sky is the Limit
When used properly, drones have the potential to completely transform the scale of your wedding. A drone will capture an amazing 360 degree view of your special day—not to mention cinematic quality video you can relive for years to come. Ethan reminds us that as long as you have an experienced pilot, drones are actually very safe. It all comes down to doing your research and choosing the right professional for the job.
Some Questions to ask your Drone Pilot
Are you a licensed Drone operator? Note: A Remote Pilot Certificate is required to legally operate a drone commercially
Do you have any additional licenses? Note: Ethan also has a Private Pilot’s License
Could you provide a copy of them? Note: In the event of an emergency, it is a good idea to have copies of these on hand
Do you keep up to date on the safety and legal guidelines for drone operation?
Do you know how to handle it if you lose GPS signal while operating your drone?
Do you have any recent work we could look at? Note: This will allow you to see if the video footage is smooth and the photos clear and sharp
Do you have liability insurance? Note: This will cover damages up to a certain amount in the event of an accident
Want to learn more?
Blog by the talented Emily Delaney, associate wedding & event planner at Detailed Engagements
Why It’s So Important To Use Trusted Vendors For Your Wedding
The creation of a successful wedding takes a strong team, a community of people working together to make the day the best it can possibly be for the couple. At Detailed Engagements, we know this to be true. Our best and most successful wedding & event days happen when we work with a team of amazing vendors who truly love what they do and have the right energy to make it all happen.
When choosing the key players for your wedding day, use the vendors you already have as your guide. If you picked a wedding planner because you trust them to see your vision and bring it to life, chances are you’ll feel the same way about the other vendors they work closely with, too. When your planner suggests an awesome DJ or your venue coordinator suggests a florist who does a beautiful job, they are recommending them for a reason. It is not only based on the exceptional quality of their work, but for their professionalism, friendliness, and trustworthiness. They suggest them to you because they are confident that this person will do everything in their power to make you, their client, happy. If you surround yourself with vendors who have this same goal in mind, you can’t go wrong.
It is so important that your vendors not only communicate well with you, but also with each other. Just like you want to surround yourself with wedding professionals that you trust, your vendors want to do the same. Highly recommended and preferred vendors exist for a reason. They are not so that vendors can work exclusively with their friends in the industry (although here at DE we do love the rockstar wedding pros we get to work with on a regular basis!) Instead, certain vendors have earned their recommendation because they have proven to be trustworthy and committed to their clients best interests. They are not selfish, petty, or competitive. They know that it takes a strong team to produce a great wedding, and they are committed to working together to achieve that goal. To be a real professional in this industry means so much more than just showing up on time to do a job. It is a positive attitude, team work, and a client-centric mentality that makes a vendor amazing to work with. A great vendor will have work that speaks for itself, but it’s their reputation that earns them the trust and respect of both their peers and their clients.
Shoutout to all the amazing vendors and wedding pros who have helped make DE weddings so extraordinary over the years!
Associate Wedding & Event Planner
I am so excited to join the Detailed Engagements team as an Associate Wedding Planner and Event Coordinator! For me, the most meaningful part of the planning process is helping clients to create their unique vision and watching it come to life before their eyes. The feeling that comes from seeing pure joy radiating from a couple, when their day is better than they ever dreamt it could be, is what keeps me coming back for more. I am so passionate about providing this amazing feeling to my own clients as they watch the day they envision become a reality.
My time at Detailed Engagements has taught me so much, but above all it has shown me the importance of building good relationships. Bringing a client’s vision to life can only be done with the help of a strong team, including some of the best wedding professionals in the industry. I have already had such a unique opportunity to work with so many people across the board, from our amazing clients to incredible vendors. I am very excited to build relationships with new clients and continue to foster great working relationships with the trusted industry professionals that DE has worked so closely with over the years.
I am a true New Englander at heart. Growing up, I considered Newburyport to be my ‘backyard,’ where I have always enjoyed spending time with friends and family by the water, either on the boardwalk downtown or on the beaches of Plum Island. I love this community, and how working here has allowed me to become a small part of it. I will always love to travel- there is something so exciting and challenging about working in new, unique places and venues and I look forward to doing so for many of my future clients. But there is also something so special to me about working with clients and vendors who hold New England and the surrounding areas close to their hearts. Whether they are looking to create a beautiful wedding or event locally, or looking to re-create that feeling of home somewhere else, I am so excited to work with them on bringing the unique details of their day to life!
I am extremely fortunate to be able to grow with this business, and for the experience, knowledge, and relationships that I will gain along the way. I can’t thank Tiffany enough for this opportunity, along with so many others for all of your encouragement and support thus far. I am truly honored to be a part of the Detailed Engagements team, and I am so optimistic to see what the future holds for myself, my clients, and this business going forward!
Emily joined the Detailed Engagements Team early in 2017 and is already taking on clients of her own and rocking the weddings & events!
She can be reached at:
Tented weddings and events are kind of our thing. For the past 7 years we have worked with our clients to create some amazing tented weddings and events all over New England! From the beaches of Cape Cod to the mountains of NH. An airport in Plum Island and back yards all over New England. Hardy Farm in Fryeburg Maine and the Stevens Estate in Andover, Massachusetts. Over the years we put tents in some of the most beautiful places!
Our clients come to us because they want something different, something that matches their style! That may be a wedding at Spencer Peirce Little Farm in Newbury, MA or a client appreciation party on the waterfront in Newburyport, MA. We have put a tent on the beaches of Provincetown on Cape Cod and on the shores of York, Maine. Yeah, tented weddings and events really are kind of our thing!
And we couldn't be happier with that! We love the logistics of planning a tented event. From designing a tent layout in our custom programs to watching the weather in preparation for the big day- we love every part of putting together a tented wedding or tented event. Do not let this intimidate you- tented weddings and events may have a lot of working parts but we will guide you every step of the way. We have been doing this for 7 years. We will keep the stress level down and help you work out every detail.
Interested in something like this? Planning to spend your wedding day in a tent? Are you throwing a big party and plan on renting a tent? Want to know who are favorite companies to work with are? Want to know who does the best job with a tented event? We should talk. We will help you make this a reality.
The Tented Wedding & Event Pros at Detailed Engagements
email: hello@DetailedEngagements.com phone: 978-380-4162
ps: here are a few photos of some of our tented goodness that we have worked on through the years. Enjoy!
Alex + Betty Photography
Zac Wolf Photography
Karen Kelly Photography
The Rustic Studio
Martino Micko Photography
Heather Littlefield Photography
Anne Skidmore Photography, Jordan Luciano
Matthew Yeaton Photography
She of the Woods Photography
Dee Renee Photography
And the rest are courtesy of a Detailed Engagements iPhone :-)
As we wrap up the month of February it is important for me to share this blog.
If anyone had told me during those first few months after I started Detailed Engagements that 7 short years later I would be living my dream and working with the best clients & vendors in the world I would have been in awe. I started writing this anniversary blog about 10 times this month. Each time I started I turned the music down in the office and stare at the page. Every time I was overcome with emotion thinking how far I have come and the journey I have taken to get here. Each time I started writing I began thinking about all of the amazing weddings & events throughout these 7 years. This month I have had the pleasure of meeting with 6 potential new interns for Detailed Engagements. Their excitement was contagious and their enthusiasm for this industry that I call home was palpable. We talked about their dreams, their goals and how DE may fit into those. We talked about what I do, where I came from and how I started this business and the journey it has taken to get here today. It seemed fitting that today after these meetings have wrapped that I finish writing this blog and share it with you.
I love what I do. Simply put every day I walk in to my office I feel like I am the luckiest person in the world. Detailed Engagements and my role as the owner and lead wedding & event planner is not simply a job to me- it is my life. My passion. And I am so incredibly lucky and thankful to live my dream each and every day.
Everyone who knows me knows that I am not usually the emotional type but this year is different. Thank you so much to everyone who has believed in me, supported me and allowed myself and Detailed Engagements to be part of your weddings & events throughout the years.Thank you to my friends and family who have been there every step along the way. You all mean more to me than I will ever be able to express but as I celebrate the 7th anniversary for Detailed Engagements I promise you that I will continue to walk into my office every day thankful for what you all allow me to do. Big things are in the works for Detailed Engagements. This 'little' business I started in a spare bedroom in my parent's house 7 years ago with little more than a dream and a won't-quit attitude is taking me places I never dreamt of. I promise to make this year, our 7th year in business, even better than all of the rest. I promise to continue to make each and every client feel like they are part of our DE family.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of you who have trusted in me through the years and chose to work with Detailed Engagements. You have helped to make me who I am today and for that I truly thank you. I have spent a great deal of time this month reflecting on the past 7 years and I have just had a smile on my face thinking of it all. I am one lucky girl and I will never forget that. I have the best job in the world.
Cheers to you my friends!
~Tiffany J. Learned
I was invited to spend the weekend at the Mountain View Grand Resort and Spa in Whitefield. NH by their catering manager Ms. Katie Norris and I jumped at the opportunity! My better half and I left work early a few Fridays ago and made the beautiful drive up to the White Mountains to this stunning resort. As soon as we arrived at the beautiful grand entrance a bellhop named Daniel welcomed us and set the tone for all that we were about to experience that weekend! We were quickly checked in and brought to our gorgeous room. We thought it was absolutely stunning with its picturesque views of over 30 mountain tops including Mt. Washington but we later learned that this was actually the bridal suite where the bride usually gets ready on the day of her wedding! It was spacious and a perfect set up for this with its separate sitting area, breakfast nook and large bathroom. Well played MVG! Once we were all settled in we decided to enjoy our first evening at the resort with a cocktail on their sprawling front porch known for its spectacular views of the sunset. And the sunset that evening did not disappoint. It was an absolutely gorgeous view and all I could think about was how stunning a mountain side ceremony at sunset would be at this one-of-a-kind resort. We did a little exploring on Friday evening to see as much as we could. We came across a game room that had a movie theatre across the hall! We saw the outdoor skating rink and an outdoor fire pit. We sat by fire places enjoying their oversized leather chairs and an adult cocktail or two from their in house tavern. If we hadn't already figured it out- this little self guided tour would have told us that the MVG resort was truly special and we were in for a wonderful weekend.
We enjoyed all that this historic resort had to offer while we were there from dining in Harvest Tavern on Friday evening and chatting with Lauren our fabulous bartender to competing in an Ax Throwing competition on Saturday morning before enjoying some time in the pool and sauna. But one of the top experiences we enjoyed was dining in the 1865 Wine Cellar on Saturday night. This was phenomenal! The moment we walked down the stairs and stepped into this impressive setting we knew we were in for a wonderful experience. From the quiet, relaxing setting to our exquisite meals everything was perfection! But our waiter Javar made the night! From his wine knowledge to food suggestions- it was just perfect. We enjoyed our chats with him and ended up having a relaxing meal that lasted over 2 hours! While we were enjoying ourselves down in the Wine Cellar we felt like time had stopped and we were in our own little world. I can't say it enough- it was perfection.
The whole time I was enjoying myself I kept imagining this resort as the perfect setting for a wedding, a large corporate retreat or any event for that matter. What the Mountain View Grand Resort has created is not just a wedding venue or an event space but a feeling and an experience. From the second you and your guests step out of your car and enter up the stair way into the grand entrance you will become lost in the experience and never want to leave. From winter nights roasting marshmellows by the fire the night before your wedding to welcome parties on the veranda on a warm summer evening- this resort has it all. I haven't even mentioned their gorgeous venue spaces yet! With something for every group size, every style and every event- they do not disappoint. If you have not thought about this resort for your wedding or event or even just a weekend away you are truly missing out. This is a NH mountain resort at its finest located in the beautiful White Mountains.
Just writing this is bringing back all of the feels from our trip and is making me want to go back again! Hmmm... when do we have another free weekend?! MVG here we come!
For more information on weddings and event at Mountain View Grand Resort & Spa or to book a weekend away for yourself visit:
www.MountainViewGrand.com or email Katie at KNorris@MountainViewGrand.com. Make sure to tell them I sent you ❤
~Tiffany J. Learned
Lead Wedding & Event Planner
Seems pretty fitting that today is this beautiful bride Ashley's birthday and today is the day that we got word that her absolutely STUNNING wedding from this past September at Hardy Farm has been featured in Northshore Magazine's wedding issue! I may be a little biased but I am thinking that having her wedding photos be featured not one, not twice but SEVEN times in one magazine is pretty much the best birthday gift she may just get this year. Not only is their beautiful wedding featured in this article I was interviewed for but the Editor of Northshore Magazine Nancy Berry chose a photo of one of their stunning cernterpices to accompany her Editor's Letter in this issue.
A few months back Northshore Magazine reached out to me asking to chat about a wedding story for the January 2017 wedding issue of the magazine. The piece involved interviewing three of our area's top wedding planners, one of which was me, for three different types of weddings. They asked to interview me for the Rustic Barn Wedding and hear my thoughts on the sorts of details I would suggest to bring home a client's vision. In addition to tables settings, place cards, programs, invitations and flowers, I enjoyed chatting about my ideas on way that couples are making their barn weddings special and unique.
A huge thank you to Victoria Riccardi for so wonderfullly interviewing me and translating our conversation into print for this article, to Elise Sinagra for my beautiful new headshot and of the insanely talented Jorden Luciano from Anne Skidmore Photography for capturing Greg & Ashley's beautiful barn wedding at Hardy Farm in Fryeburg, Maine this past September.
Cheers to you Ashley and Greg! We loved working on your wedding and seeing it in print again brings back all the feels.
So far 2017 is off to a great start!
~Tiffany J. Learned
Owner/Lead Wedding & Event Planner
Read the article in its entirety at:
Well done Pantone, well done. Big kudos to the 2017 Pantone Color of the Year. We love it! Every wedding needs a touch of greenery. From the classic ballroom affairs in downtown Boston to a rustic barn wedding in the New Hampshire mountains this color will work for all styles and in lots of color pairings.
Cheers Pantone! We love the choice. We know we will be seeing lots of this in this year's wedding designs!
Nestled in the woods of Kensington, NH lies 400 acres of protected land and an incredible venue called Alnoba. While only 20-minutes from the popular New England seacoast cities, Newburyport, MA and Portsmouth, NH, you feel like you're deep into the White Mountains of New Hampshire. Alnoba is an exciting location for anyone wanting to get married near Newburyport but also wanting an eco-conscience woodland wedding environment. The Lodge at Alnoba is the first mixed use building in North America to be certified as a Passive House which features extreme energy efficieny and respect for nature & mankind. This space is a green bride's dream. Weddings here will certainly be one of a kind.
So many collaborators were involved in bringing this inspirational shoot to life and if you like something you see be sure to view the credits at the end of the post and give these talented professionals some love!
This lodge setting deserved impecable details to match the beautiful surroundings. We chose a light, airy and clean color pallette keeping in tune with the modern lodge vibe this venue exudes. The table scapes throughout included trailing greens, white pumpkins dipped in gold, deckled & calligraphed paper decor and tartan accents. The massive mantel decked in florals was a beautiful feature for the main lodge room and a perfect place for couple's photos. The stationery suite carried out the antler theme & brought life to the photos with a pop of tartan on the calligraphed envelope. Bride & groom were styled in classic yet modern attire with makeup & hair that complimented the look prefectly.
The desserts were provided by The Farm at Eastman's Corner , a community-governed, year-round farm and farm market founded by the Lewis Family Foundation. Eastman’s Corner is a model for economic and environmental sustainability, philanthropy, food production and education and is the exclusive caterer for this venue.
To sum up the day, this team we developed completely nailed our vision. This dream team of vendors really came together and worked seamlessly as a cohesive team. All hands were on deck in every aspect of the day helpings us coordinate, create, and execute this fun filled styled shoot. To all of our awesome vendors, our amazing models and the one-of-a-kind venue, we say "cheers" to fall weddings that take a modern but classic approach.
Creative Direction, Conception & Styling
Melissa Keyes : Free Range Floral Design | www.freerangefloral.com | @freerangefloraldesign |
Kate McNamara : Freebird Photography | www.wearefreebird.com | @WeAreFreebird |
Venue : Alnoba | www.alnoba.org |
Photographer : Freebird Photography | www.wearefreebird.com | @WeAreFreebird |
Floral Design : Free Range Floral Design | www.freerangefloral.com
Invitation Suite, Menu, Paper Decor : Simply b | www.simplybprints.com | @SimplyBnbpt |
Day of Coordination - Detailed Engagements | www.detailedengagements.com | @DetailedEngagements
Calligraphy : Janis Snell Calligraphy | www.janissnell.com | @JanisSnellCallig
Hair Stylist : Liz Kidder Studio | www.lizkidderhair.com | @lizkidder
Makeup : Jo Louise Beauty | www.jolouisebeauty.com | @JoLouiseBeauty |
Bridal Gown : Bella Bridal Shoppe | www.bella-bride.com | @BellaBridalShoppe |
Gown Designer : Haley Paige | www.jlmcouture.com/Hayley-Paige | @MissHayleyPaige
Getting Ready Robes : Doie Lounge | www.doielounge.com | @doielounge
Bride Model : Sophia Mortellaro | @SophiaMortellaro |
Accessories : Luxa Jewelry | www.luxajewelry.com | @luxajewelry
Groom Model : Facebook: Tony Lamont | @TL_11’ |
Men's Attire : Blank Label | www.blanklabel.com | @BlankLabelClothing |
Dessert : Eastman's Corner | www.eastmanscorner.com | @EastmansCorner
Detailed Engagements is known for weddings, events and more weddings but if you were to follow me around for a day you would realize it is so much more. There is a whole other side of it that I rarely talk about on my business page but seeing as though today is Giving Tuesday I really think it is time to share with you my other passion.
Building a business takes a tremendous amount of hard work, long hours and passion. I am incredibly blessed to have grown a wedding & event planning business I am very proud of here in the city I call home- Newburyport,MA. Every day I am reminded of how lucky I am and how far I have come. In 2014 I , along with the Newburyport Chamber of Commerce, founded the Young Professionals with a Purpose group here in Newburyport. YPP, as it is called, has held a very special place in my heart since its inception and it is something I am very proud of. I do not speak of it often in my business life but today on Giving Tuesday I thought it would be the perfect time to share this with you. YPP, Young Professionals with a Purpose, is a group geared towards the young, working professionals who want to give back and simply may not know how. We host events with our partner venues, restaurants and other locations in the Newburyport, MA area to grow awareness of various local charities and to create a networking opportunity for young professionals.
Our first event was in January of 2015 and featured the local charity Pennies for Poverty. I think back on that early event- not knowing how this group would grow and what we would do but thinking we may just be on to something. Our first event was at the Ipswich Country Club during a big snow storm and over 100 of our area's best and brightest Young Professionals arrived. They came with pockets full of spare change and bags full of groceries to donate. The need was there, we made the connections and they showed up ready to help. We have since helped a total of 8 local charities with the most recent being Christmas Tree Santas, an organization who donates a Christmas tree, the lights and all of the decorations to a family who would otherwise not be able to have one for financial reasons.
One of the most touching charities and one that is near and dear to my heart was our January 2016 charity- Lucy's Love Bus. Amesbury, MA native Lucy Grogan was 8-years-old when she was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia. Throughout Lucy's long illness, concerned individuals raised money to help support Lucy. Lucy learned about the benefits of integrative therapies such as massage, acupuncture, art therapy, and therapeutic horseback riding during her treatment.When Lucy was 11 she told her mother that when she was "done with cancer" she wanted to start a program that would provide free integrative therapies to all children with cancer to help manage the side effects and late effects of traditional cancer treatment. Since 2006, generous supporters have helped deliver love and comfort to over 750 children with cancer all over the United States. We had the pleasure of Lucy's mother Beecher attending this YPP event at Ceia in downtown Newburyport, MA. We packed the house with over 125 area YPPs and raised more money than any of us expected. While Beecher was speaking the room was silent and there were not many dry eyes around. I watched as people hung on Beecher's every word as she talked about what it meant to be Lucy's mom. Even as I type this my eyes are filling up with tears, some sad and some happy. Sad because I never had the pleasure of meeting Lucy but happy as I recall that night and think of my friendship with Beecher Grogan- all because of YPP.
YPP was started because we saw a need. A need to give other young professional a networking opportunity. A need to showcase and raise awareness of our local charities many of which are in great need. A need to bring events to local restaurants and venues which may be slow in a certain time of year. But what I didn't see in the beginning which I see so clearly now is that I needed YPP as much as YPP needed me. YPP has given me the ability to give back in a way that I could have only imagined. I do not have the big bank account to write a check to these great local charities. I can not give as many hours to volunteer as I would love. This is how I can give back. This is how I can help. Something which seems so little but in the long run I have seen make a huge difference. I turn 35 this coming Thursday December 1st and I often joke that I will soon age out of my own group but it couldn't be farther from the truth. I will always be young because I have defined Young as "not yet old". As long as I am young I will be giving back as much as I can. It will never be enough but it is something. And something is always better than nothing.
If you are interested in how you can help or when our next event is please email me at Tiffany@DetailedEngagements.com. Would love to help connect you with a local charity who could use your love and support or tell just tell you more about YPP. I am far from perfect and by no means am I any better than any one else for doing this but I certainly encourage all of you reading this to think about helping as well. It can be just attending one of our events, it can be donating unused clothing or food, it can be donating you time. It can and will all make a difference. Please give back. Trust me when I say it will be worth it.
Thank you for reading.
PS- enjoy some of my favorite pictures from YPP events over the last 2 years.
When done right a First Look is absolutely amazing. Are you thinking about doing a first look?
What is a first look you ask? Some of us in the industry forget that most people are not even sure what a first look is. So let me begin by explaining it:
The First Look: simply put this is when the couple sees each other before the wedding ceremony in a carefully choreographed private moment. This is done in lieu of seeing each other for the first time at the wedding ceremony
A first look is typically arranged well in advance of the wedding day with the photographer and wedding planner for the couple to see each other in private and capture those moments before the ceremony. This is worked into the timeline of the wedding day to make sure there is plenty of time allowed. The pictures captured are always amazing and will be cherished forever but not everyone is a huge fan of this concept. It was often thought that seeing each other before the wedding ceremony was bad luck. That is not the case for all couples any more. It is often one of the favorites parts of their wedding day. That being said- a first look is not something that is right or wrong in terms of etiquette. It is something that you as a couple just need to decide is right for you or now.
There are obvious pluses and minus to this part of a wedding so I thought a blog about this idea might come in useful for those of you who are trying to make up your mind about wether this will work for you or not.
Before you make up your mind up on whether a first look is right for you take a look at E & M's first look on Plum Island this past September. Photographer extraordinaire Zac Wolf of Zac Wolf Photography and I worked together to create this perfect, happy tears and laughter filled first look.... see for your self...
A first look may not be for everyone on their wedding day. Do what feels right for you as a couple. But trust me whether it is when you are on the aisle moments away from saying your I Do's or when you are turning around at your first look that feeling that you will get, the emotion that will come over you when you see your soulmate, the person you want nothing more than to spend the rest of your life with ail be amazing. I promise you that.
Small budget and a BIG Pinterest board? You might be setting yourself up for disappointment.
One of the first things I ask my new clients to send me is their Pinterest Board. This is like a little magic look at what the couple has as an expectation for their special day. As much as I love using this site it also makes me very sad. There are so many options, so much to look at! So much to inspire to be like as a couple but unfortunately Pinterest is NOT reality for 99% of the couples getting married today. I hate to be the bearer of the bad news but its either you hear it from me now or you find out the hard way on your wedding day....
Your wedding is NOT going to look like your Pinterest Board. Your wedding is going to be amazing, It is going to be perfect. Perfectly yours. But it will NOT look like your Pinterest Board.
OK drink that in, read it again. Now breathe.
Unless you have a HUGE budget and Martha Stewart as a fairy godmother your Pinterest Dream Wedding Board is not going to come to life.
Here are a few factors that will play into this:
So often I want to just call Pinterest and ask them if they know what they are doing to people!?! They are giving them a false sense of reality and then when the couple realizes they can not actually afford all that they have pinned in their boards they are let down and nothing seems 'good enough'. That truly breaks my heart. Yes, I am a wedding planner but I am also realistic. Weddings are but one day, one very important day, but one day nonetheless in the trip known as you life which you will take with your new husband/wife. That is what is important. Stop comparing yourself to all of those other weddings and just plan yours. Don't set yourself up for unrealistic expectations only to have them crushed when the it comes down to the bottom line of how much things cost.
This blog come out of a place of love. I have chatted with far too many couples who have an unrealistic expectation for their wedding day because of the ideas they have on their Pinterest Board. Ask them after their wedding what the day was actually like. They will tell you it was perfect- but nothing like what they had 'imagined' it would be like.
Now keep pinning but pin cautiously. Do not walk into your florist or your cake maker with unrealistic expectations otherwise you will be very disappointed. Think clearly and logically and it will save you a lot of heartache in the long run. Trust me.
Happy planning & thanks for reading!
For those of you who know me personally or who have worked with me you inevitably have heard me talk about managing expectations as being a huge part of my job. This is often one of the most challenging parts of my job- managing expectations of everyone involved and keeping things realistic. In the very connected, smart phone world we all live in now there are constant streams of information coming at you in all forms. From the second the ring is placed on the hand and someone says "YES!" the expectations start stacking up. Is the ring nice? Is it big enough? Will you get married this year? How big will the wedding be? What style wedding will you have? What will your dress/suit look like? Each and every person involved with a wedding has to manage their expections for this big day. I talk about it so often that it never really dawned on me that this is my topic- this is what I will start a blog series about. I will call it Great Expectations (original huh?) and in each installment of this series I will talk about a specific person or couple and the expectations they have for their role in the wedding day. I will write about the mother of the bride, the maid of honor, the LGBT couple, the parents who are paying for the wedding etc, etc and all the expectations that will need to be managed with each role. My wheels are already spinning thinking about this so stay tuned for all that is to come!! I will be launching my first installment of this series soon and who knows how many installments I will write but I have a feeling I will not run out of wedding expectations to discuss!
Stick around - you are going to want to read what I post!!
Thanks for reading :)
My clients come to me with a lot of different questions and concerns throughout the time we are working together but one topic that comes up time and time again concerns the wedding guests. I have been meaning to write this blog for quite some time now but after having a lengthy conversation with one of my couples a few days ago I realized it was time... hope this helps!!
This blog is directed to anyone who is invited to be a guest at a wedding! Here are some tips to make sure that you are the PERFECT wedding guest! It was hard to number these from 1-5 because in a lot of ways they are all just as important! So here you go- here are 5 things you can do - or not do- to be the perfect wedding guest!!
# 1. Do NOT wear white, ivory, cream or any other color that resembles white, ivory or cream if the bride is wearing white, ivory, cream or anything that resembles white, ivory or cream.
I am not even kidding about this one. I can't make these stories up if I tried. It happens and it happens more than you would think and in my opinion it is just plain rude.
#2. SHOW UP TO THE WEDDING ON TIME!
There is nothing worse than holding a ceremony for a guest who is arriving late. NOT fair. NOT cool.
#3. Do NOT get in the way of the professional photographer or videographer.
It does not matter how long you have been shooting, how great your camera or how important it is for you to have pictures- the couple has trusted their very important wedding day to these individuals. They do not want to see the back of your head in the middle of the aisle or you standing up in the church with your iPad up in the air taking pictures or video. Leave it in your bag and please, PLEASE do not get in the way of the professionals!! All the pictures are always posted online so you can see them there when they come out. I promise.
(You're welcome to all of the photographers and videographers who just yelled "AMEN" when they read this. Its ok- I have your back!!)
# 4. RSVP on time.
The majority of couples send out their Save-the-Dates and wedding invitations well in advance. Respond as soon as you can! If you have a work issue or something that is keeping you from knowing if you can attend let the couple know! Please just respond- it is the WORST thing when a couple has to track down their guests to ask if they are coming well after the due date has passed.
# 5. DO NOT ask for a plus one if you are not given one.
These decisions are largely based on $$- do not put that pressure on the couple to do something that they might not be able to afford. Putting together a guest list is one of the hardest things an engaged couple has to do. Trust me when I say that most couples planning a wedding wishes they had deeper pockets to be able to do things a little different. If you do not receive a plus one you are not being punished, or left out or something of that nature. They had to make cuts somewhere and this is how it is.
I hope I did not offend anyone with this blog and maybe, just maybe there are a few of you out there who will learn a thing or two after reading this. A girl can dream, can't she?!?!
Do you have anything else you want to share? Let me know! Comment on this blog with anything else you wish all wedding guests knew so that they too can be the perfect wedding guests!
Thanks for reading,
Beautiful Blooms for the Month of Your Wedding
From elaborate floral arrangements as centerpieces to the simplicity found in boutonnieres, flowers are some of the most versatile elements in a wedding day. They can transform a ceremony space, honor special guests and represent you and your partner as a couple. With a creative imagination and a knowledgeable florist, the options are limitless. Unfortunately, this factor also makes it easy to go over budget.
When exploring floral options for bouquets and décor, it is crucial to keep in mind that flowers are seasonal. They bloom during different times throughout the year; some grow best during the spring, while others are most common during the fall. Florists are charged more in shipping and labor costs when they purchase flowers that are out of season, resulting in higher fees for brides and grooms.
Flowers can still bring an unparalleled level of timelessness and elegance to a wedding, without the high cost. One must simply choose to include flowers that are in season. Follow our guide to discover the top flowers that are thriving during the month of your wedding! Not only will they coordinate with seasonal wedding themes, they will also be easily accessible, and therefore, cost effective.
Each of these can flowers serve as beautiful statement pieces throughout your wedding. Find the best bloom for you!
January: Alstromeria, Chrysanthemum, Sweet Pea
February: Lilium Casablanca, Lily, Rose
March: Freesia, Orchid, Ranunculus
April: Iris, Tulip, Calla Lilies
May: Poppy, Lilac, Peonies
June: Zinnia, Tuberose, Sweet Pea
July: Delphinium, Cosmos, Hydrangea
August: Gardenia, Chrysanthemum, Dahlia
September: Juniper, Liatrus, Sun Flower
October: Misty Blue, Asiatic
November: Chamelaucium, Stephanotis, Star of Bethlehem
December: Amaryllis, French Tulip
All the best,
~ Love your favorite Newburyport Wedding Planning Team from Detailed Engagements!
Bubbles and Bites
Out with the old and in with the new; the biggest trend for cocktail hour? Tasting stations galore. Give your guests the chance to sample an assortment of foods. Try the classic mac ‘n cheese bar or an oyster shucking station! Food trends for 2015 also suggest serving family style meals rather than individual entrees. This is the easiest icebreaker and will spark guest interaction!
Similarly, beverage trends opt for providing guests with sample sizes of classic beers, wines and mixed drinks. These smaller portions could help keep costs down!
The most loved wedding flowers are not going anywhere! We will be seeing more of the signature three: peonies, ranunculus and English roses mixed in with tons of greenery to create romantic bouquets. Mint, ivy and magnolia leaf are some of the leading herbs that will be used generously in bridal bouquets and centerpieces. Also trending are oversized flower petals, which are a flawless way to add drama to wedding day décor.
The Pantone Color Institute® is the ultimate source of information on the fashion industry’s most popular color trends and forecasts. Marsala has been chosen as the Pantone color of the year! Named after the sweet Sicilian dessert wine, Marsala offers rich, earthy and sophisticated tones to compliment a variety of themes. Although, the dramatic hues of this color are most prominent when used on textured surfaces. It is a perfect shade for napkins, bouquets, and bridesmaid’s dresses. Pantone experts have also picked sixteen beautiful colors to best represent the trends found in spring, 2015. A mixture of warm and cool tones combine to create a soft, minimalistic approach to the nature like elements often found during the spring. Some of our favorites are Scuba Blue, a striking and exciting shade, Toasted Almond, a bronzed neutral, and Dusk Blue; a peaceful and muted tone.
Each of these trends can be easily incorporated into your wedding day.
Personalize them & make them unique to you!
All the best,
Kaitlin is one of the INCREDIBLE team members here at Detailed Engagements. Stay tuned to see the blogs that she is writing for all of you!
7. "How long have you been in business? Do you have a business license?"
The longer someone has been in business the more experience and connection hopefully they will have! If someone does NOT have a business license they may not be taking this serious and are still acting as though this is a hobby.
6. "Do you carry your own liability insurance?"
This is a great question to ask ALL of your wedding vendors. You will feel much better knowing that everyone on your team has everything covered. We hope to never have to use this but it is nice to know it is there just in case.
5. "How many events/weddings like mine have you done on your own?"
And note to ask "like mine". Each wedding is so different but if you are planning one outside in a backyard vs in a hotel ballroom the logistics are much, much different! You will want an experienced person on your side who has been through anything and everything that you may encounter along the way and not someone who has never done this before. This is an area that spending a little more money will really help you. You "buy" the expertise, the advice and guidance along the way and your day will do much smoother when your planner knows what they are doing- trust me!
4. "Besides what is quoted in your proposal, is there anything else we will need to pay you?"
How about travel? Overnight accommodations? Outside expenses? You do not want to be surprised by anything. Ask ahead of time and save yourself the headache later.
3. "Is this your only job?"
When starting out in this industry most people will do this "on the side" and work another job, sometimes another full time job. It is important to ask your planner if they have another job because this will tell you how available they will be to you. Will they be available at the drop of a dime in the middle of the day on a Tuesday or will they need to call you back when they are out of work. This is why paying for an established, experienced planner is often the way to. This is my only job. I live, sleep, breath everything weddings! It keeps me focused and super organized. It also keeps me from becoming burnt out from trying to do too much.
2. "How many weddings do you take a year? How many weddings and events do you expect to have around the time of our wedding?"
My team and I only take a limited amount of weddings/events each year and this allows us to give as much attention as possible to each and every client. You will want to know that your planner can do the same.
1. And the # 1 question you need to ask a wedding planner before you sign on the dotted line with them is:
"Can I see your references and reviews?"
This is self explanatory. Read what their past clients have to say about them. This will give you a great sense of what it is like to work with them and what they are like to work with! The best gift anyone can give someone is a referral and sometimes not giving one at all speaks volume. Any vendor who has a lot of very good reviews about them online is a great person to hire! Look to see how long they go back as well. Do the 5-star reviews go back a few years and all say the same thing? You will be able to see right away if people are happy with someone's services and if you go with them you will be too.
So often I see the final decision on a wedding planner based strictly on price and how much it will "cost" the client to have them. If you do not hire the right professional to handle one of the most important days of your life it may COST you a lot more than just a little bit of money if you chose to hire an inexperienced planner to work with.
Remember that the wedding planner is the person you will work the closest with throughout the planning process so you need to make sure that you and your fiancé are very, very comfortable with the person you chose to work with.
I try to coach my clients as much as possible to make an educated decision not an emotional one when it comes to picking anything for their wedding. This way everything is thought out and will not be regretted later on. The same should apply when picking a planner.
Hope this helps you make the best decision possible.
Congrats- you are ENGAGED!! It is so exciting, such a happy time!! CELEBRATE!!! Tell all of your friends, tell your family, put it on Instagram, Snapchat it, change your Facebook status but DO NOT BOOK ANYTHING for your wedding until you read this.
Trust me- you will thank me later.
Below are 5 common mistakes I see far too many newly engaged couples making. I want to save you before you make the same mistakes!
5. Getting so excited that you invite everyone you know to be in your bridal party!!
You are so excited and they are so happy for you and before you know it the words "Will you be my Bridesmaid?!?!" come out of your mouth!! Stop, step back and think this one out. It is not so much about the size of the bridal party but the people that you have in it and your favorite pal from work may not be the best person to have standing next to you at the alter. Being in a bridal party is expensive and the bigger the bridal party you have the more money it will cost you and them! Really, really think about this before you ask someone to be by your side on such a special day.
4. Booking a vendor because your friend used them.
I know the above statement shocks most people to hear from me because referrals are how I built my business. The highest compliment I can receive is when a happy client sends someone my way and they book with me! All business owners will tell you the same thing, especially a small business owner! All that being said make sure you do some research before you book anyone for your wedding- even if your friend/family/coworker loves them. Check out their reviews, get quotes and compare them to at least 2 other options. Just because your friend was happy with someone does not always mean you will be- things like price, style and personality may make someone not the best option for you but a perfect fit for your friend. Just make sure you do your research and at the end of the day book someone because you like their work, their pricing fits in your budget and you genuinely want to work with them- not just because your friend/coworker/family member used them.
3. Booking a venue before you finalize your guest list. This sounds so simple but its on the list- so it happens! People get caught up in everything- the emotion and excitement of it all. Before you know it they are signing on the dotted line for a venue before they know if it will actually work for their wedding. Do not get caught in a tough situation which can be 100% avoided.
2. All wedding, all the time.
Focusing on the wedding and only the wedding could easily have been the #1 mistake that newly engaged couples make! Try, as hard as it may be, to enjoy your engagement and all that comes with it! Just because you are getting married and planning the best wedding of the decade does not mean that you should let it consume you 24/7/365. The world is still spinning around you- enjoy it! Let yourself enjoy the ride and all that comes with it. Continue to date each other, make time for friends and family and do not start every conversation with "So here is my wedding update!". Life will be much better this way, I promise.
Drum roll please…
1. Hands down THE BIGGEST mistake I see so many newly engaged couples make is booking a venue, a photographer, a florist or buying that must-have dress before they have The Budget Talk.
Until you have that talk with each other and/or your parents you should NOT spend a penny on anything for your wedding day. Let me repeat this one because it is THE biggest mistake I see people make and I wish I could yell this from the roof tops to make sure that no one makes this again-- have the budget talk BEFORE you book or buy anything for your wedding! Have an honest conversation, write down what is important to you and your fiancé and then look for the pieces of the puzzle that will make your dream day a reality. The last thing you need it to stress about money for your wedding because you failed to prepare.
What is that saying I love so much? Oh yeah, its this-
When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
Do not FAIL at anything when it comes to your wedding.
So there they are folks- the top 5 mistakes I see newly engaged couples make far too often.
At the end of the day as long as you make an educated decision and not an emotional decision you will be ok. When in doubt- stop, step back and sleep on it. Then decide. This is a good life rule in general but especially important when planning your wedding!
Hope this helps and keeps your stress level down!
Detailed Engagements is pleased to announce that we have been named by North Shore Magazine as Reader's Choice for the BEST Wedding Planner AND also BEST Event Planner in their BONS 2014 Issue!
A huge thank you to all who voted for us! We are very excited to have received this honor!
Tiffany J. Learned
& my Fabulous Team!
Here in New England I am often planning for at least some part of every wedding day to be outside. From a beautiful oceanfront ceremony to a cocktail hour on the terrace, many couple choose this region for the breathtaking landscape as the backdrop of their special day. But we all know Mother Nature is fickle and can serve up just about any kind of weather on any given day. Everything will be OK if you are prepared. Here are 10 tips for planning for potential rain on your wedding day!
1. Have a back up plan- this is a no- brainer. If you having anything outdoors please, please have a back up plan! Another site for your ceremony. A tent company on standby. Make sure you have options if the forecast looks like it will not be all you are hoping for.
2. EMBRACE the rain! The photos will be AMAZING!! The color, the lighting, no one will be squinting! Think Wellies & puddle jumping= makes for great photo-ops! Pack some towels to dry off after and go for it!
3. Buy gear to match your color scheme- Have fun with the colors of rain gear you pick! Have all shades of your wedding colors for your girls, white for the bride(s), black for the groom(s)! Have fun! Go buy out all the shawls, pashminas and wraps and offer them to the wedding party and your guests. This will color coordinate your pictures too if you pick the colors for them! Bonus!
4. Set up a deadline for making the call inside or outside and stick to it! Set up a cutoff time to decide when you are going to pull the plug on the outside events and stick to it. This will give the tent company, catering company and everyone else a chance to adjust, make staffing changes and set up the proper equipment they need. This should NOT be a last minute decision! Give your vendors proper time to adjust accordingly.
5. Be flexible & be realistic! If you are having an outdoor event remember it can and might rain, snow, hail or be windy. Work with it. Go with the flow. If you have a good plan A, plan B and plan C and are willing to make any of them work you will be fine! Anything can happen. The pictures you see on Pinterest and in WellWed magazine are not always what will happen for weather. If you are realize that your day will be just perfect!
6. Think of all the people involved! Are your guests going to have wet bottoms from the wet chairs? Make sure someone wipes them off! Is the ground going to slippery when wet? Have someone help walk women in slippery shoes to where they need to go. Are your bridesmaid's dresses going to be see through if they get wet?!?! Let them wear coats! Think ahead and avoid any of these from happening.
7. Can't do outdoor photos the day-of the wedding- no problem! Do it after. If your dream was to have outdoor formal photos on the day of your wedding and the weather just is not going your way- just skip it! Set up a time when the weather will be nicer, have your hair done, throw on your fancy wedding attire and go do it! Your photographer will be happy to help you! This way you can go to all those amazing places you wanted to go have your photos taken at anyways and without a strict timeline to work with! You can take your time and get some pretty awesome pictures in beautiful weather. Sounds like a win-win to me!
8. Buy cheap, clear plastic tarps! Go to your local super store or hardware store and buy a few clear plastic tarps. If the forecast is iffy this is a quick cover-up for anything you would not want to get wet. If the forecast says rain for an hour before your ceremony then clearing to sunny- cover all your chairs, aisle, and flowers with plastic and then right before your ceremony pull it off and you have yourself a dry place to get married! Simple and cheap enough!
9. Warn your guests! Give them a good heads up! Mass text message. Update your Facebook status telling people that it might be muddy, windy, cold etc. They will listen and dress appropriately!
10. Bring extra shoes for everyone. Think about where you are walking when you are outside. Wet ground? Don't wear heals or anything you can slip in. Forgo the fancy shoes and wear boots if you can. Once you get inside change into your gorgeous shoes! Save them for when it is safe to put them back on. Have flip flops for your guest to put on if they get soaked. Towels by the door would be really handy and maybe even some socks for any soaked feet. Your guest will thank you and have a better time if they do not have wet feet!
11. Hay!! For next to nothing you can use hay to spread over an area outside that is going to be muddy if it gets wet! The hay will help soak up the water and keep your feet, and your guests, happy and dry!
12. Use professionals and TRUST THEM! Professionals will all know exactly what to do and have done this before! I have back up for the back as I tell my clients! If the power goes out- I got it! If you need a tent- I have the owner of the tent company on speed dial! This is for sure a reason to hire a wedding planner like myself and my team at Detailed Engagements- we have it covered! We can make those last minute calls that need to be made and still deliver you the day of your dreams. When you use a professional, it gets done, things are fine and all the bases are covered long before the day of the event. I have a game plan and a back up plan! I have you covered. You just have to show up in your oh-so-cute rain gear and smile. Because I've got this!
So if you are looking at a forecast that includes a few too many rain drops for your liking as long as you follow my tips above you will still have the day of your dreams!
7 Ways to Protect Your Wedding Guests from Mosquitoes
Protecting your guests from mosquitoes is one of several challenges of having an outdoor wedding. Please consider the 7 tips below to help in keeping your guests comfortable.
1. Pre-treat your ceremony and reception space with an outdoor fogger and possibly mosquito traps if budget allows.
2. Light tiki torches filled with citronella oil and place around perimeter of your reception and/or ceremony space. *Purchase these items at the end of the summer season for huge savings!
3. Provide guests with a selection of mosquito repellents.
4. Keep outdoor space well groomed and dry. Mosquitoes are attracted to high grass and standing water.
5. Consider an early afternoon celebration. Mosquitoes mostly appear at night when the air is moist and cool.
6. Stage one or two electric fans. Mosquitoes are not great flyers and will have a difficult time navigating through a gently breeze.
7. Inform your guests that you are hosting an outdoor celebration. Hopefully this will encourage them to wear light colored protective clothing.
Protecting your guests from mosquitoes should be a top priory if having an outdoor wedding. If you know a couple planning an outdoor celebrating, please share these important tips on how to help keep those nasty little buggers away!!!
Hope this helps!
This blog is for all of my fabulous bridesmaids out there who are trying their absolute best to give their brides the shower of their dreams.
You asked her what she would like, you have talked about it a few times and now it is time to get planning the shower. You are planning an event just like a wedding. You need to answer the first 3 questions just like the happy couple did: What is your budget? Guest List? And when? Well we know the couple gives you the guest list- so check. That is done. The when is easy. Any time before the wedding. Ok that can not be that hard to figure out, you gave yourself plenty of time to plan and let people know. Ok so that too is done. Now the budget. Oh the budget. Your bride wants a "simple" wine tasting for a shower. At a local vineyard, It goes along with her wine themed wedding! It will be amazing :-) But how are you and the 4 other bridesmaids going to pay for it!?! The bride gives you a 100 person guest list. Her wedding is 200 people…
OK first get up off the floor. I am going to help. It seems like this is too much. You have your own bills. Maybe you just got married or you are planning your own wedding. You just started going back to school or changed professions. So unless you win the lottery you need to get creative and FAST!
Think about your options.
1. Time of year: Where do you live? Are you in one of the area which has an "off season"? Venues are much more likely to discount their booking fees if you book offseason.
2. Time of day or day of week: is your bride hell-bent on the oh-so-common Sunday brunch or can you get creative? Could you do an afternoon soiree and save yourself some money? What about a Thursday night cocktail party? 2pm on a Saturday? Not really lunch time, not really dinner time so just serve some appetizers and you're done! All great options and you will have a blast!
3. Menu items: Most reputable venues will work with you based on the "Per Person" cost you can afford. If you find a venue you like try to work with them before you book to see if they can work the menu to fit your budget and the $$ you are looking to spend.
4. Skip the invites and send an email instead! Today everyone is connected to some sort of electronic device and will probably lose the invite anyways. Keep everything online and save yourself some $$ and time! This will make it easier for the guests to find the information when they need it too! If you have a few people who will need the actual printed invite (think Grammie) then send out a couple of hand written cards. This will make them feel nice by getting something in the mail and still save you $$!
5. SKIP the favors!! Who really uses the mini-frames anyways? I can not say it enough and I will not even waste time explaining this one- skip the favors and save some money! NO ONE will be offended. If you do not have a lot of money to work with this is a no-brainer.
6. Throw the shower at your home! Or the private residence of someone you know! Save money on site-fees and there will not be any limits on how long you can be there. You will be able to make all the food for the shower and save some serious $$!
There are so many ways to get creative with a shower and save you money but my biggest piece of advice I can give you is - JUST ASK! Just like anything else the wedding/event industry is sales too! See something you would like but just seems a little out of your budget- just ask for a discount! Haggle if need be. People will work with you and it never hurts to ask for a "better" price. You might not get it but the answer is always no unless you ask!
Hope all of this helps!
Good luck and happy planning!
It happens. The inevitable. Someone at some time during the planning process will be in tears. I can not say it enough- I have NO idea why but weddings bring out the WORST in people just as much as they bring out the BEST in people.
So I have found myself saying "Cheers to no Tears!!" more than I thought I ever would have. ( you can use it but it is my tagline and I am trademarking it so give me a little credit or something please! haha)
So how can you as the bride, you as a bridal party member or you as the mother of the groom keep the tears from flowing and keep me saying Cheers to No Tears? It is simple. Think kindergarten. Think simpler times. Think about what your mom always told you:
Say "I am sorry"
This is so overly simple that right now you are laughing but think about it. What is the last argument or topic about the wedding that got you mad or made you cry?? Now what could you have done differently to change that? Could you have shared something? Cared a little more about the other person's side of things? Or could you have just said "I am sorry"?
99.9% of the time this will stop, mend and move along in a merry way most of the troubles. Most fights I see in wedding planning are simply put based on selfish can't-see-past-their-own-nose ways of looking at things. I have been there. Been on both sides. And I am willing to bet that as you are reading this you have been too. We all have been on both sides. It is just about being conscious of it and doing better next time.
This goes for brides, grooms, parents, siblings, wedding party members and even guests. Take a breath. Step back. Can you share? Care? or simply say I am sorry? To make this all better? I bet most heated topics that come your way will be very easily solved by doing one, two or all three of these things!!
I wish I only had to write about all the happy, amazing times that wedding planning can be but I am a realist and that just isn't always the case. So instead I wanted to share how I am trying to keep the peace with my clients, any weddings I am in and my own wedding. Hope this helps!!
So let's all say it together--- CHEERS TO NO TEARS!!!
You got the ring…. CONGRATS!!
But now what?!?
Once you have the ring there is a lot to think about and sometimes things become overwhelming and fast!
My goal is ALWAYS to make the wedding planning process as easy as possible. I thought a simplified list of what to do first when you get engaged is the best way I can help!
1. Establish a budget!!
Without a realistic budget you will waste your time. Trust me. Once you have a budget that you and your fiancé are both comfortable with then and only then you can start the planning process. Everyone you chat with will ask what your budget is right away. With a # in mind you can start planning. Without it it is nearly impossible.
2. Establish a guest list!!
Once you have established your budget put together your guest list. When you are answering the question of Where the guest list is very important. It will help you narrow down your search. You will not want to fall in love with a venue which can not fit your guest list.
3. Pick a date!!
Or at least a time of year you want to be married. If you have a special date in mind that is great! But if you are flexible you may be able to book your perfect venue in the "off-season" when things are cheaper- saving you $$.
When you begin the planning process everyone you speak to will ask you the same questions:
How many guests?
And now you know your answers!
So the next item on your to-do list is to:
What is important to you? What is important to your fiancé?
How about your parents? Your family?
There are some things on planning checklists that may prove to not be that important to you while others are on the must-have list. As different as each and every couple is so is your priority list. Is it the food and music that top your list? Or is it getting married on the beach? Put it down on paper and this will help with allocating your budget and make your life easier, trust me!
5. Get yourself organized!!
Create a folder on your computer and make subfolders inside of it. Each category needs a separate folder and still each folder may have many documents and folders inside them! Make ones for: Venue, Ceremony sites, Dress styles, Food ideas, Guest list etc etc. All of these will help you stay organized and keep the rip-your-hair-out-stress away! Having things labeled and simplified will make your life much, much easier.
And on that note here is the last item on your To-Do List after your get that ring:
Take a minute out to enjoy this moment.
Live in the moment and truly just take it all in.
This will only happen once in your lifetime, enjoy it!!
Put your glasses up- Cheers!!
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